I don't know if it's just me, but it seems like in the last few years, there's been a larger number of women of color going natural as opposed to treating their hair with chemical relaxers. I actually sort of fell into the natural hair category, because I never was really in need of a relaxer in the first place. This is not a "good hair" vs. "bad hair" post - as my mother used to say, "what is it good for?" For example, my hair is a little slicker as opposed to course, so it's pretty bad for braiding, but a little heat and you'd think I was a part of the relaxed crowd. But when I started wearing extensions exclusively, I lost the heat training my hair had been subjected to for years, returning my hair to its natural super tight curly status. I love seeing the curly girls who can rock a twist out, but I've tried and failed miserably on that front. Curly hair styling just is not my thing, but I can whip some straight hair honey!
My real hair is growing long and strong, but either I have to invite it to meet me outside and torch it with a scorching flat iron, or I just braid it back up and pop my hair back on. Alas, I don't know if natural is for me, which is A-ok! I've been looking into Tex-laxing - a process in which hair is intentionally under processed with the same chemicals as relaxers. The final look is more textured than relaxed hair, but straighter than natural, chemical-free hair.
I don't believe I need a full on relaxer, I never have had one up to this point, but I do think I need something for manageability if and when I want to transition back to my real hair, and there is nothing wrong with that. We as women of color definitely have to do better with respecting that what may be for some, may not be for others. So one of the things I will be chronicling here on the "Hair Talk" page is how I care for my natural hair as well as whether I stay natural. For now, I'm still in the unmanageable, I mean, NATURAL club. Let's see how long that lasts.